Readings and References

Readings and References...

The following is a listing of books, videos, games and other reference materials that might be of value to you in developing your Affective Skills. These readings should be available at most bookstores, video stores, mail order houses or internet outlets, at your public library, or at the sources listed.

We are very interested in your input as are the other parents and friends in our community. Please send your suggestions for additions to this list or reviews of publications on this list that you have read to AffectiveSkill@aol.com.

Books and Audiotapes --

Communication

Faber, Adele and Mazlish, Elaine, How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk, Harper Collins, PO Box 588, Scranton, PA 18512, Telephone: (800) 331-3761, www.harpercollins.com.
Helmstetter, Dr. Shad, Predictive Parenting, Pocket Books, 1989.
Powell, John, The Secret of Staying in Love, Argus Communications, Grove Books, 1975.
Tournier, Paul, To Understand Each Other, John Knox Press, 1967.
Wright, H. Norman, Communication: Key to Your Marriage, Regal, 1974.

Conflict Resolution

Carter, Les, Good 'n Angry, Baker, 1983.
Faber Adele and Mazlish, Elaine, Siblings Without Rivalry, Harper Collins, PO Box 588, Scranton, PA 18512, Telephone: (800) 331-3761, www.harpercollins.com.
Glasser, William, MD, The Quality School - Managing Students Without Coercion, Harper and Row, 1990.
Horn, Sam, Tongue Fu! - How to Deflect, Disarm and Defuse Any Verbal Conflict, St. Martins Griffin, 1996.
Kohn, Alfie, No Contest, Houghton Mifflin Co.
Mace, David, Love and Anger in Marriage, Zondervan.
Talley, Jim, Reconcilable Differences, Nelson, 1985.
Wright, H. Norman, How to Have a Creative Crisis, Berkley, 1987.

Parenting and Families

Barnes, R.G., Jr., Single Parenting, Tyndale, 1992.
Clarke, Jean Illsley, Self-Esteem: A Family Affair, Harper & Row Publishers.
Cline, Foster W., M.D., Fay, Jim, Parenting Teens With Love & Logic: Preparing Adolescents for Responsible Adulthood, Navpress, 1993.
Colorso, Barbara, Discipline (audiotape), Kids Are Worth It, PO Box 621108, Littleton, CO 80162, Telephone: (800) 729-1588.
Colorso, Barbara, Kids Are Worth It! Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline, Kids Are Worth It, PO Box 621108, Littleton, CO 80162, Telephone: (800) 729-1588.
Covey, Stephen R., Covey, Sandra Merrill, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families : Building a Beautiful Family Culture in a Turbulent World, Golden Books Publishing Company, 1998.
Forehand, Rex, Long, Nicholas, Parenting the Strong-Willed Child, McGraw Hill, 1996.
Ginott, Dr. Haim, Between Parent & Teenager, Avon Books.
Hart, Dr. Louise, The Winning Family: Increasing Self-Esteem in Your Children and Yourself, Dodd Meade & Co., Inc.
Huggins, Kevin, Parenting Adolescents, NAVPRESS, 1993, Telephone: (800) 366-7788.
Kesler, Jay and Beers, Ron, Parents and Teenagers, Victor Books, 1986.
Mueller, Walt, Understanding Today's Youth Culture, Tyndale, 1994.
Ward, Ted, Values Begin at Home, Victor Books, 1979.

Personal Development and Empowerment

Bedley, Gene, The Big-R Responsibility, People-Wise Publications.
Covey, Sean, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens: The Ultimate Teenage Success Guide, Simon & Schuster, 1998.
Covey, Stephen R., et al, First Things First: To Live, To Love, To Learn, To Leave a Legacy, Simon & Schuster, 1996.
Covey, Stephen R., The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Simon & Schuster, 1989.
Frankl, Viktor E., Man's Search for Meaning, Washington Square Press, Division of Simon & Schuster, 1230 Ave of the Americas, New York, NY 10020, Telephone: (800) 456-6798, www.simonsays.com.
Helmstetter, Dr. Shad, What to Say When You Talk to Yourself, Pocket Books, Simon & Schuster, Inc.
Maslow, Abraham H., Motivation and Personality, Harper & Row Publishers.
Meier, Dr. Paul, Don't Let Jerks Get the Best of You, Thomas Nelso Publishers, 1993.
Moorman, Chick, Talk Sense to Yourself: The Language of Personal Power, Institute for Personal Power, PO Box 68, Portage, MI, 49081.
Simon, Dr. Sidney B., Negative Criticism, Dr. Sidney B. Simon, Box 846, Leverett, MA 01054.

Relationships

Crabb, L.J., Jr., Understanding People, Zondervan, 1987.
Griffin, Em., Making Friends, IVP, 1987.
Smedes, Lewis, Forgive and Forget, Harper and Row, 1984.
Stanley, Charles, Forgiveness, Oliver-Nelson, 1987.
Wangerin, Walter, As for Me and My House, Nelson, 1989.

Role Model

God's Little Devotional Book, 1995, Honor Books, Inc., PO Box 55388, Tulsa, OK 74115, Telephone: 877-663-1330.
God's Little Devotional Book II, 1997, Honor Books, Inc., PO Box 55388, Tulsa, OK 74115, Telephone: 877-663-1330.
God's Little Devotional Book for Teens, 1999, Honor Books, Inc., PO Box 55388, Tulsa, OK 74115, Telephone: 877-663-1330.
Gray, Alice (compiled by), Stories for the Heart, Multnomah Publishers, Inc., 1996, www.multnomahbooks.com.
Gray, Alice (compiled by), Stories for a Woman's Heart, Multnomah Publishers, Inc., 1999, www.multnomahbooks.com.
Gray, Alice (compiled by), More Stories for the Heart, Multnomah Publishers, Inc., 1997, www.multnomahbooks.com.
Gray, Alice (compiled by), More Stories for a Man's Heart, Multnomah Publishers, Inc., 2001, www.multnomahbooks.com.
Welden, Amelie, Girls Who Rocked the World: Heroines from Sacagawea to Sheryl Swoopes, Beyond Words Publishing, Inc., 20827 NW Cornell Road, Suite 500, Hillsboro, OR 97124-9808, Telephone: 800-284-9673, www.beyondword.com.

Videos --

Achieve the Impossible: The Bill Irwin Story The incredible true story of how one man achieved his goal, despite overwhelming odds. After losing his eyesight, Bill sets out to walk the 2,169 mile Appalachian Trail with only his guide dog to help him. Bill is an inspirational role model for students. (22 minutes)
Institute for Affective Skill Development, P.O. Box 880, La Luz, NM 88310, Telephone: 505-437-5282 or http://www.iasd.com/order.html

Armed with Hope Inspirational video documentary about John Foppe who learned at an early age that "our only real handicaps are those mental and emotional ones that prevent us from participating fully in life." John Foppe was born without arms . While the sight of how he tackles life with his toes will amaze you, once you hear his message you will not be looking at him -- you will be looking at yourself. John will take away your excuses and give you a new sense of hope. (30 minutes)
John Foppe Seminars, Telephone: (618) 526-2011, or www.johnfoppe.com

Cool Runnings Based on a true story about the unlikely formation of a Jamacian bobsled to compete in the 1988 Winter Olympics. The participants have never even seen snow, let alone a bobsled. (98 minutes)

Developing Internal Self-Esteem Constance Dembrowsky offers proven techniques for educators and parents to help youth develop the skills and behaviors necessary for an internally based self-esteem which results in the confidence to get what they want in life in ways that maintain dignity for themselves and others. Conveniently divided into five segments, it is an ideal staff development training tool. (120 minutes)
Institute for Affective Skill Development, P.O. Box 880, La Luz, NM 88310, Telephone: 505-437-5282 or http://www.iasd.com/order.html

Eddie's Million Dollar Cook-off Eddie Ogden is a normal, but talented eight-grader who likes baseball, plays first base for his team, the Groundhogs, and is the best player in the league. But Eddie also has a secret… he loves to cook and is a natural-born chef. In pursuing his love, Eddie enrolls himself and his friends (who are also his Groundhog teammates) in home economics class. It is here that Eddie is given the chance to enter the "Million Dollar Cook-off" -- a professional level cooking contest for middle school students, the prize for which is a million dollar scholarship to a prestigious culinary institute. Eddie struggles with his wish to play baseball and his love of cooking, with wanting to fit in with his friends and learning his craft. But Eddie struggles most with gaining the acceptance of his rather sexist dad, who just happens to be his coach and who wants only for Eddie to become a big league ball player. Including a guest appearance by The Food Network's Bobby Flay, this film is a humorous, but also sensitive portrayal of a boy with difficulty following his dream and of a father coming to terms with his son who wants to do… a girl thing. Marlee Matlin (Children of a Lesser God) and Jack Jason are the executive producers for Eddie's Million Dollar Cook-off, which debuted on the Disney Channel on July 18, 2003. Though not yet available on DVD or video, Eddie's Million Dollar Cook-off can still be seen regularly on the Disney Channel. (85 minutes)

Practical Parenting (video tapes), Wagonseller, Dr. Bill, United Learning, 6633 West Howard St., Niles, IL 60648, Telephone: (800) 323-9468

Rudy Based-on-fact account of Rudy Ruettiger a working-class boy intent on realizing his dream of playing football at Notre Dame despite his uninspiring academic record and unimposing athletic ability. (112 minutes)

Stand and Deliver Based on a true story about a tough, demanding and inspiring high school teacher who motivates a class full of East Los Angeles barrio kids to care enough about mathematics to pass an Advanced Placement Calculus Test. (99 minutes)

Tru Confessions Trudy Walker, who friends and family call "Tru," is a twelve-year-old girl whose goal in life is to be a broadcast journalist. Tru's twin brother, Eddie, has been developmentally challenged since birth. In addition to dealing the struggles of just being a teenager, Tru is torn between her love for her brother, her difficulty in understanding how to help him, and her guilt that Eddie was born challenged and she was not. Based on the book of the same name by Janet Tashjian, Tru Confessions was produced for The Disney Channel and premiered on April 5, 2002. I have not been able to find the movie as a video for sale, but it still airs on The Disney Channel. (95 minutes)

The book, Tru Confessions, (recommended for ages 9-12) is now out of print as a paperback (Scholastic, 1999), but in print in hardcover (Henry Holt & Company, 1997) and available new and used.

Activities and Games --

LeFevre, Dale N., New Games for the Whole Family, Putnam Publishing Company, 405 Maurray Hill Parkway, East Rutherford. NJ 07073, Telephone: (800) 631-8571, www.penguinputnam.com.

Myrick, Robert D. and Erney, Tom, Caring and Sharing, Educational Media Corporation, Box 21311, Minneapolis, MN 55421, Telephone: 800-966-3382, www.educationalmedia.com.

Myrick, Robert D. and Erney, Tom, Youth Helping Youth, Educational Media Corporation, Box 21311, Minneapolis, MN 55421, Telephone: 800-966-3382, www.educationalmedia.com.

Rohnke, Karl, Cowstails and Cobras II, Project Adventure, Inc., PO Box 100, Hamilton, MA 01936, Telephone: 978-468-7981, www.pa.org/publications.asp.

Rohnke, Karl, Silver Bullets, Project Adventure, Inc., PO Box 100, Hamilton, MA 01936, Telephone: 978-468-7981, www.pa.org/publications.asp.

Brain Teaser Puzzles --

Mensa Number Puzzles for Kids (75 puzzles), Chronicle Books, 85 Second Street, Sixth Floor, San Francisco, CA 94105, Telephone: (800) 722-6657, www.chroniclebooks.com.

Mensa Word Puzzles for Kids (75 puzzles), Chronicle Books, 85 Second Street, Sixth Floor, San Francisco, CA 94105, Telephone: (800) 722-6657, www.chroniclebooks.com.

Visual Brainstorms (100 Brainteaser Questions), Product Code 6550, Binary Arts, 1321 Cameron Street, Alexandria, VA 22314, Telephone: 703-549-4999, www.puzzles.com.

Visual Brainstorms 2 (100 Brainteaser Questions), Product Code 6560, Binary Arts, 1321 Cameron Street, Alexandria, VA 22314, Telephone: 703-549-4999, www.puzzles.com.

Hamiltion, Ben, Brainteasers and Mindbenders, Fireside Books, Simon & Schuster, 1230 Ave of the Americas, New York, NY 10020, Telephone: (800) 456-6798, www.simonsays.com.

Stickles, Terry, Mind-Bending Puzzles: A Bundle of Bogglers to Battle Your Brain, Pomegranate Communications, Box 6099, Rohnert Park, CA 94927, Telephone: 800-227-1428, store.yahoo.com/pomegranate.

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